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My Cousins – A Shared Journey

I Love MyCousins

I love MyCousins

Greetings,

My Cousins is an epistolary story told entirely in online communications.  Mostly told through email, there are Facebook and LinkedIn communications also shared. It is both about dialog and information sharing.  The dialog is what inspires the project to its eventual resting place with you.

It all begins with a Family Tree created for the Elcik and McClanahan surnames. A family record, however, is more than names, dates, and places.  It is about people – what they did, and why and the how.  This project is designed to record the history of our family and our ancestors forever.

The MyCousins project almost died in 2008 with a failed “family and friends” effort. It was to be a chronicle of favorite recipes and family history. And there were grand plans to revise and publish periodically.  We said at the time that there was a lot to do for this to be a success.  There was, and it wasn’t.   Even a modest request for help fell on deaf ears. Everyone was asked to contribute a favorite recipe and a page about themselves. The document produced was a lot of work and not particularly useful. Ultimately, it was used twice. Keri Lucas made inquires and received a copy. And Stacey Elcik used it as part of a school project.

Judith Lakkis, in 2011 tried to revive the Elcik family interest in genealogy research with a request for a DNA sample.  Her own research suggested a family connection, and she wanted to explore it further.  I was not ready for this. Not only did I not know much about the technology, but I was also too busy at work to give it much thought. The opportunity thus came and went.

In 2020, I took a fresh look at updating the family tree. This time it was different. My cousin Jack Gamache volunteered his wife Beth to help.  Beth had spent years working on building family trees. And she is passionate about her love for the work. The Elcik tree was the least developed, and we agreed to collaborate.  The process was much different this time. I was no longer working alone. Beth introduced others to the project and using social media, our numbers grew. The project includes 29 contributors and 25 subscribers as we go online.

Beth and I make a great team. First, we both are committed to ancestry research. For us, it is both important work and fun. Beth is outstanding with outreach both within the family and professionally. And I have the technology interests to support the work.

The ancestry research by Beth and I cover a lot of topics. But in the background is always the desire to solve the mysteries surrounding our immigration to America. Why did we immigrate? Why do we spell our surname Elcik? Are there other members of the family to find? Can we reach beyond our shores to Europe?  If answers are to be found, this is where we report them.

Yes, Elcik and McClanahan surnames were my starting point. I added: Adams, Brekke, Byras, DeRosa, Skillin, and Strand. And then Gamache and Lucas. There are now hundreds of surnames and still growing. Beth started with the Purinton surname. She has added Day, Gamache, and dozens more. For now, we are both happy with our separate trees. Who knows, someday there may be a need to combine contents into one World tree.  If, so it will be my job to handle the technology.

Dr. John P. Elcik, IV

Email: john@mycousins.org

 

I love MyCousins

Greetings,

The idea for turning our online communications into a book came about suddenly. I have a unique book my parents gave me on the genealogy of Durhan, Maine.  Both of us concluded that Lisbon Falls needed similar treatment.  This became even more pressing as we struggled with the mystery that connects the two communities. Eventually, we concluded that Lisbon Falls was too large a subject and focused on the mystery of Elcik immigration.

In the late 1800s, two Elcik families immigrated to America.  John Elsik came in 1891 and John Ilcik in 1905. Both families came from Austria-Hungary, spoke Slavic, and had a Catholic heritage in common. Both families have ties to Androscoggin County, Maine. John Elsik is John’s Great-grandfather with ties to Durham, Maine.  John Ilcik is the Great Grandfather of John Elcik in Rocky Point, New York. John initially referred to the Ilcik family as the New York Elcik’s.  In retrospect, we now believe his ancestral ties are also with Durham, Maine. Regardless, both John Elcik’s are steadfast in their belief that the families are related.  But how?

Beth Purinton Gamache

Email: beth@mycousins.org

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Message From the Authors

I love MyCousins

Greetings:

Someday, someone will ask about their ancestors and their family history. I wish that when they do that, there is a written record that includes not just names and dates of significant events; but also some idea of who we were both as individuals and as families.

Currently, genealogists are fond of saying that a Family Tree without sources is Mythology. True. But I argue that we gain nothing from good record keeping without stories and images to tell us the lessons learned.

What follows is a transcript of electronic conversations with relatives as our ancestors’ roots are traced as far back as possible.

Ancestry conversations don’t take off until 2020, when my cousin Jack Gamache volunteers his wife Beth’s help. Beth and I will converse using email, and the result is this ebook, which she is the second most prominent contributor and co-author. You will “hear” from her shortly.

Thanks to technology, it is relatively easy to go back five generations to when our family reached the shores of America. What drove us to make the journey? We can only guess, and we do. Our sincere hope is that someday the situation in Europe that prompted our immigration will be revealed. To identify and meet relatives from “across the pond” is something we wish for our children.

What is generally missing are life stories. Beth and I captured a few, added images, and pray that others will pick up where we left off.

 

 

Dr. John Paul Elcik, IV

Email: john@mycousins.org

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I love MyCousins

Greetings,

No one, not even an academic, needs to read this like a book. Scan the message headings until something looks interesting, and then begin reading. Move on as you feel the urge to do so. There are information and nuggets of wisdom everywhere. We found both in the experience, and so can you.

Beth (Purinton) Gamache

Email: beth@mycousins.org

 

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Facebook Post – John Elcik and Beth Purinton Gamache

08-24-2020

Beth,

Pam and I have been partial to dogs since the beginning of our relationship; Pam’s sister Kathy is our cat lady. Both dogs and cats like squirrels! Is that a real one in your cover photo. Is there a story here?

We have a new puppy: Lucy Belle, a chihuahua and terrier mix. Mostly terrier. After many years our Holly (terrier mix) and Daisy (Chihuahua) went to the rainbow bridge. This was more than a year ago so it was time to adopt. Pam worked as a volunteer coordinator for a shelter when we lived in Ohio. That’s where she found Holly and Daisy. Our first dog who came with our marriage was a Poodle named Sadie.

Neither one of us remembered how hard it is to train a puppy. Cats are so much easier. Kathy’s cats Mr. Grey and Ebony I believe were born trained. ?

John, IV

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Re: FYI

 
Thu 12/17/2020 9:31 PM
 
John,

I’m curious, what is the messaging feature you mentioned on Ancestry, and how do you use it?  I”m not familiar with that.   

 

You also said you have 14 people with potential interest regarding your great grandfather.  That’s wonderful.  You’ve done a lot of work to try and figure out the Elcik puzzle, which is a very complicated process.  I am anxious to see where this goes.  

 
I’m in awe of your enthusiasm and tenacity to complete the puzzle.  
 
Beth
 
Thu 12/17/2020 9:44 PM

Beth,

When you are on a person’s profile, look to the right, and select the Tools pulldown menu. Select Member Connect. If anyone else is interested in that person, Ancestry provides a list of suggested connections.  The same Ancestry Tool we have used for ourselves is provided for making the connection.  
 
They may not all be good leads, but Bill, Robert, and yourself were three of the 14 for my Great-great Grandfather: John, Sr. One of the others had several family trees, one of which was for the Lucas family. 
 
As someone once said, it is better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick. Lol. 
 
John, IV
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Church History

Tue 12/8/2020 7:45 AM

I have been overlooking the historical aspects of MyCousins. The investigation into the origins of St. Cyril Cemetery will put me on track to fix this.

Saints Cyril and Methodius

Cyril and Methodius were two brothers and Byzantine Christian theologians and missionaries. For their work evangelizing the Slavs, they are known as the “Apostles to the Slavs.” They are credited with devising the Glagolitic alphabet, the first alphabet used to transcribe Old Church Slavonic. Wikipedia

Born826 or 827 and 815; ThessalonicaByzantine Empire (present-day Greece)
Died14 February 869 and 6 April 885; Rome and VelehradMoravia
John, IV
P.S. I have not given up on contacting the Cemetery who according to research, it has “1-4 employees.” I am confused as to why the (207) 353-2792 phone number for the Cemetery didn’t work.  Pam thinks there was a big snowstorm in Lisbon so we will try again. It should be a current number as it is posted across many websites and listed in the Business Directory of the Town Center for Lisbon as the Holy Trinity Rectory number. I believe they have inherited ownership. See https://www.lisbonme.org/business-directory/holy-trinity-catholic-church
Tue 12/8/2020 9:29 PM
John, IV,

You aren’t going to believe this, BUT Holy Trinity church is across the street from us.  They have a long driveway, and you can’t see the church from our house.  They combined Holy Family, St. Cyril, and the Catholic church in Lisbon several years ago and built on land across the street from us given to the church.  We walk over there every day as long as weather permits. 

There’s someone in the office some days, and I’ll walk over there and ask them if they have records of people buried in St. Cyril and Calvary cemeteries.  It’s worth a try, at least.  
 
I’ll see what I can do,
 
Beth
Wed 12/9/2020 12:43 AM
Beth,
Lol. It is a VERY small world. I look forward to learning more.
John, IV
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Newspapers.com

Fri, Feb 12, 2021, at 6:25 PM
Beth,
Here is a valuable link, if you have not already seen it. FREE access to Newspapers.com for Valentine’s Day Weekend.
Using it I was able to verify the “legend” of Uncle Clyde, my mother’s brother.
Regards,
John, IV

Fri 2/12/2021 11:00 PM
John,
 
Interesting article about your uncle.  You told me about that and now you have the newspaper article to prove it!! 
 
I didn’t know about the free access to Newspapers.com.  Thanks for sending me the link!
 
Beth
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Elcik Humor

Definition of “Smart Aleck”

On Wed, Jan 27, 2021, at 11:40 PM

Beth,

Given all the alternative spelling for the Elcik surname has given me cause for concern. People might think that the term “smart aleck” is a reference to my family or me. Ouch!

Let me assure you it is not.

The term ”smart-alec” came from Alec Hoag’s exploits, a celebrated con man in New York in the 1840s. He and his wife Melinda and an accomplice known as French Jack operated a con called the Panel Game, a method by which prostitutes and their pimps robbed customers.

I’m not sure which is worse, being a person who is irritating because they behave as if they know everything or knowing the origins of the term.

John, IV

“Smart Aleck – Yes or No?”

Thursday, January 28, 2021, 8:28 AM

John,

You are neither irritating nor a smart alec.  I know you are simply driven to find the answers to your questions and the “real truth.”   Considering the odds we’re both up against, that isn’t easy to do.  You have the ways and the means to accomplish that much more than I do.  I would have given up long ago without your help and the Fantastic Four!!!

I still can’t believe Pam’s garage and the task to sort through everything.  It’s snowing in Maine and is the second day to do so.  If you need an explanation of the word “snow,” ask google, she’s a “smart alec” and can sometimes be irritating!!!!  I DO love her, though!!

Beth

Who Is Sirsi?

Thu 1/28/2021 11:10 AM

Beth,

Thanks!

Your encouragement, participation, and support have been what keeps me involved and focused. Your talent for engaging others is evident in the others you have brought into our crazy world. It is fun. You have made it so.

I, too, love Google. She is only responsive to the questions I ask.  I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with Apple’s Siri, who eavesdrops on conversations and occasionally spontaneously speaks up.

I googled Siri; and Her name is Susan Bennett, and she lives in suburban Atlanta. Susan Alice Bennett (nee Cameron, born July 31, 1949) is an American voice-over artist and a former backup singer for Roy Orbison and Burt Bacharach.  Apple won’t confirm it. But Bennett says she is Siri. Professionals who know her voice, have worked with her, and represent her legally say she is Siri.

John, IV

“Siri (/ ˈ s ɪr i / SIRR-ee) is a virtual assistant that is part of Apple Inc.’s operating systems. The assistant uses voice queries, gesture-based control, focus-tracking, and a natural-language user interface to answer questions, make recommendations, and perform actions by delegating requests to a set of Internet services.”