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My Cousins – A Shared Journey

I Love MyCousins

I love MyCousins

Greetings,

My Cousins is an epistolary story told entirely in online communications.  Mostly told through email, there are Facebook and LinkedIn communications also shared. It is both about dialog and information sharing.  The dialog is what inspires the project to its eventual resting place with you.

It all begins with a Family Tree created for the Elcik and McClanahan surnames. A family record, however, is more than names, dates, and places.  It is about people – what they did, and why and the how.  This project is designed to record the history of our family and our ancestors forever.

The MyCousins project almost died in 2008 with a failed “family and friends” effort. It was to be a chronicle of favorite recipes and family history. And there were grand plans to revise and publish periodically.  We said at the time that there was a lot to do for this to be a success.  There was, and it wasn’t.   Even a modest request for help fell on deaf ears. Everyone was asked to contribute a favorite recipe and a page about themselves. The document produced was a lot of work and not particularly useful. Ultimately, it was used twice. Keri Lucas made inquires and received a copy. And Stacey Elcik used it as part of a school project.

Judith Lakkis, in 2011 tried to revive the Elcik family interest in genealogy research with a request for a DNA sample.  Her own research suggested a family connection, and she wanted to explore it further.  I was not ready for this. Not only did I not know much about the technology, but I was also too busy at work to give it much thought. The opportunity thus came and went.

In 2020, I took a fresh look at updating the family tree. This time it was different. My cousin Jack Gamache volunteered his wife Beth to help.  Beth had spent years working on building family trees. And she is passionate about her love for the work. The Elcik tree was the least developed, and we agreed to collaborate.  The process was much different this time. I was no longer working alone. Beth introduced others to the project and using social media, our numbers grew. The project includes 29 contributors and 25 subscribers as we go online.

Beth and I make a great team. First, we both are committed to ancestry research. For us, it is both important work and fun. Beth is outstanding with outreach both within the family and professionally. And I have the technology interests to support the work.

The ancestry research by Beth and I cover a lot of topics. But in the background is always the desire to solve the mysteries surrounding our immigration to America. Why did we immigrate? Why do we spell our surname Elcik? Are there other members of the family to find? Can we reach beyond our shores to Europe?  If answers are to be found, this is where we report them.

Yes, Elcik and McClanahan surnames were my starting point. I added: Adams, Brekke, Byras, DeRosa, Skillin, and Strand. And then Gamache and Lucas. There are now hundreds of surnames and still growing. Beth started with the Purinton surname. She has added Day, Gamache, and dozens more. For now, we are both happy with our separate trees. Who knows, someday there may be a need to combine contents into one World tree.  If, so it will be my job to handle the technology.

Dr. John P. Elcik, IV

Email: john@mycousins.org

 

I love MyCousins

Greetings,

The idea for turning our online communications into a book came about suddenly. I have a unique book my parents gave me on the genealogy of Durhan, Maine.  Both of us concluded that Lisbon Falls needed similar treatment.  This became even more pressing as we struggled with the mystery that connects the two communities. Eventually, we concluded that Lisbon Falls was too large a subject and focused on the mystery of Elcik immigration.

In the late 1800s, two Elcik families immigrated to America.  John Elsik came in 1891 and John Ilcik in 1905. Both families came from Austria-Hungary, spoke Slavic, and had a Catholic heritage in common. Both families have ties to Androscoggin County, Maine. John Elsik is John’s Great-grandfather with ties to Durham, Maine.  John Ilcik is the Great Grandfather of John Elcik in Rocky Point, New York. John initially referred to the Ilcik family as the New York Elcik’s.  In retrospect, we now believe his ancestral ties are also with Durham, Maine. Regardless, both John Elcik’s are steadfast in their belief that the families are related.  But how?

Beth Purinton Gamache

Email: beth@mycousins.org

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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One Tree Was Not Enough

Beth Purinton Gamache

Beth Purinton Gamache

Greetings,

John thinks I’m “amazing” because of my six family trees. The truth is it was simply easier for me to organize my time.

I originally told him I spent 2 years researching my Purinton family tree. That’s partly true. That included the Goddard and Day family trees. I did quite a lot of the Gamache and Byras family trees during that time as well. As he knows, the Elcik family tree has been difficult with some roadblocks.

I share John’s frustrations with poor spelling and shared family names. I’ve had to deal with Puddington, Purrington, and Purington. Then, Purinton, which is how my great grandfather, grandfather, and father spelled it. I didn’t think about that when I first joined Ancestry. Now I check everything on gravestones, birth certificates, etc., and trace the changes.

Poor spelling and shared family names make it effortless to introduce duplicates into a family tree. I experienced the same thing with my Purinton family. There were 3 generations of Humphrey Purinton’s marrying women named Thankful. That was a complete nightmare for me because each generation had 11 and 12 children, and I had to connect the right Humphrey and Thankful to my family. No wonder I don’t sleep at night!!!!

Fortunately, there are tools to help find and fix them. John has helped with some of this, but mostly it is a lot of hard work.

Most of my Purinton ancestors are buried in a cemetery in West Bowdoin and some in Hillside. My Purinton ancestors established the Baptist church in West Bowdoin, and some were deacons and reverends. I never knew any of that until I read many articles about them in my Ancestry search. It was a huge eye-opener for me. My mother was from Durham, my dad, from Lisbon Falls. Most of the Goddard and Day families (my mother’s maiden name was Goddard, my dad’s mother’s maiden name was Day) are buried in Durham, and some at Hillside in Lisbon Falls. Yup, I’ve taken lots of Day and Goddard gravestone pictures. I have spent considerable time in cemeteries getting pictures for us. John says they are much better than what he could get at the FindAGrave website. Larger file sizes make for better visibility of the writing on gravestones.

The biggest disadvantage I had with multiple family trees is keeping them straight for others. Just the other day, John asked me what the sixth tree was. He was missing my Goddard family tree. My mother’s maiden name was Goddard. It also includes Croteau and Dearnley’s families, which is my grandmother Goddard’s family. Her maiden name was Croteau, and my great grandmother’s family is Dearnley. The Dearnley tree goes back to the 1700s, and they were from England. The Croteau family tree goes back to the 1800s, and they were from Canada. I traced the Goddard family back to the 1600s. I have a lot of pictures in the Goddard family tree.

John likes working with technology, and I like the outreach work. I’ve worked to involve others in our research. Among those who have become interested through outreach are Bob Elcik, Dan Gamache, Charlie Hall, Eugene Elcik (the Maine writer), George Karkos, Marilyn (Karkos) Keamy, Pam (Karkos) Lizotte, and William Cizmar.

Currently, I’m very anxious to talk to Eugene Elcik again. We have gotten together once. He also has corresponded with John. The Karkos family has intrigued me too. It’s a never-ending search for more information!!! ….

John has me wondering if I can sync the trees and have one Purinton Tree, including everyone. If so, then I can delete the Goddard- Day and Purinton Tree, including Cox trees. He thinks that there is value in my approach, given that human nature focuses our attention on our grandparent’s surnames. He thinks that researchers are quite willing to travel down the paths of additional trees. There must, however, be enough detail to send them in the right direction. We also found and contributed to the One World Tree sponsored by the Church-of-Latter-Day Saints. The latter may someday help us find Elcik’s in Europe.

Beth (Purinton) Gamache

Email: beth@mycousins.org

 

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Request for Family Photos

Jim & Jeff,

I’m working on the “blood relatives” website project and need just a couple of photos.

Can you email me recent individual headshots (something from the last 2-3 years) of everyone in your nuclear family? (Dad, Mom, Children, Dogs, Cats)

The end picture will be a square photo of 500×500 pixels, but I can easily crop and resize any image. Mostly, I’m looking for realism.

Regards,

John, IV

P.S. Of course, if you want to send me a flash drive with all your photos, I do have a backup system in place. ?

 

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Outreach to Judy Lakkis

DNA

Wed 7/1/2020 7:58 PM

Hello,

I know it’s been years (June 2011) since you reached out to me. Ouch!

I’m retired now and have time to experiment with DNA, etc. Are you still interested? Or did you get answers on your own?

I have set aside funds for research and can do another DNA test if you wish. Before I would do one, I would like to confirm that the Y-37 markers are where you are with your research? Or did you ever do the Y-111 markers? It would be a shame to do one test only to find you settled on something else. Also, do I correctly remember that you liked Family Tree DNA?

Warmest regards,

John

P.S. I have been working on a family website: https://mycousins.org. I use a membership plugin to control access for the privacy of living members. I can provide you a login/password if you like. ? Also, the Cousins Family Tree on Ancestory.com has been made public.

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Judy Lakkis and the Spivak Family Tree


Tue 7/7/2020 1:12 PM

Judith,

First, I hope all is well with you. Distant, or not, I like to think we are family.

You have been most kind by responding to my belated outreach.

Wow! How disappointing for you to have lost the data after your hard work and the expense. I feel somewhat guilty that I was not more receptive at the time. But you are wise in realizing that interests change, and I respect that.

Interestingly, I have found that building my family tree is a real challenge. It turns out, based on Census data, that three Elcik families immigrated to the United States from Austria. I can only confirm two are directly related despite the similarity of names and country of origin. Third, if it is related, the relationship will only be discovered through research in Austria. I probably won’t have the resources to take that journey. But it would be fun. ?

Nevertheless, I am tracking what I can for the third family and have added your husband into the tree as unassigned individuals for further research, someday.

When I attempted to build your family tree, I may have found data on your husband and father. We never identified him by name. Is your husband Howard B. Spivak born 1 Mar 1949? And could his father be Thoma Spivak, who passed 5 Sept 1960 in Connecticut?

I also was interested in finding your information, but I could not identify your records without your maiden name and birthdate. Likely candidates were not born in Connecticut, which I believe you said you were. If you wish to share your information with me, I may someday surprise you with results you aren’t expecting. ? No promises, but I will try.

Also, curiosity compels me to ask. Is the user account on “Find a Grave” yours? If so, it was a wonderful thing you did for others.

Warmest regards,

John, IV

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Karkos Kronicles


Sat 9/26/2020 2:10 PM

Beth,

I’m taking a page from your side of our book and reaching out to Terry L. Karkos who I shared with you was the author of Karkos Kronicles, a Genealogy website that once existed and I liked it.

Terry has a Facebook account. Who knew? I didn’t. I sent him a copy of the 1910 Elcik Family photo asking if it would do in lieu of a “calling card.” I’ll let you know what happens. There are several references on his Facebook pages that he for a long time has been interested in starting the website back up. ?

If you wish, you should reach out too. We might make his whole year with our outreach. Tell him there is a rumor going around that he is going to update and republish Karkos Kronicles. If there isn’t. I’ll start one. Lol.

John, IV

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Outreach


Sun 9/27/2020 4:28 AM

Beth,

It would be a blessing if Eugene would contribute a post, pictures, anything at all. Go, girl, go! ?

Please share with him anything you wish.

Also, you may offer Eugene early access to the eBook or the Family Tree. If he provides an email address, I will get him his own account(s) or feel free to share your access credentials if that works better for you or him.

John, IV

P.S. Any initial thoughts about the direction the opening and closing documents should take?