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Ilcik


Thu 1/14/2021 7:01 PM

Beth,

Do you have a better picture of John Sr.’s gravestone, or did you see “Ilcik” during a visit to the cemetery? My eyes may be going the way of my hearing as I can’t see it on the photo at FindAGrave.

Are you ok with my reporting this as fact to the Ilcik’s and the MyCousins groups? It is a big scoop (attributable to you) and could ignite interest in a DNA test. What do you think?

John, IV

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Re: Ilcik

Thu 1/14/2021 10:46 PM
John,

 
I don’t have a picture of the gravestone, but I can send you the one Earl sent me.  It’ll be a different email address, one that I use for my personal emails.  You should be able to enlarge it.  That’s what I did, and I had to do it several times to see the letters.  I may go to the cemetery tomorrow to see if I can get a close-up.  The letters are raised rather than engraved.
 
It’s definitely OK to use the Ilcik spelling for both groups.  I’m not sure it’ll spark any interest in a DNA test.  If people want to do that, they would have already done it.  At least, that’s my feeling.  
 
You asked me about Jack’s DNA test.  I can’t find it.  I have mine, and his is MIA at the moment.  I’m so upset with myself.  I have lots of documents and Ancestry info for my family in my office, and it may be mixed up with that.  I’ll keep looking for it.
 
I’m switching to my email to send you the picture Earl sent me.
 
Stay tuned,
 
Beth
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Re: The MyCousins Project

Fri 1/15/2021 10:49 PM
John, IV
I think people have lost interest and don’t share the enthusiasm you and I have.  No matter the reasons, you’ve worked hard on the project, and I’ve done what I can on my end.

I have to tell you; I went to St Cyril cemetery today because I couldn’t wait until Spring to find your great grandfather’s/grandmother’s gravestone.  Their last name is definitely spelled Ilcik because I traced it with my finger.  I did the same with their names and dates.  It says he was born in 1867, and we’ve been putting 1866 as his dob.  I took 2 pictures and will send them to you when I download them to my computer.  I’ll do that tomorrow as I’m tired tonight.  
 
I didn’t sleep well last night because this has been on my mind, plus I’m adding names to the Byras family tree.  Something I hadn’t mentioned to you before now….as you know, I grew up in Durham, and a good friend of mine and close neighbor was Stephen Byrus.  His father and mother were Joseph Byrus and Marie Yvette Pelletier Byrus (she used her middle name Yvette), and his grandfather and grandmother were Joseph Byrus and Louise Crowley Byrus.  Our parents were very good friends and spent a lot of time together.  Stephen was an only child; his dad had cancer and died young at 43.  It upset my parents greatly, especially my dad because he lost a great friend.  Yvette worked in a bank in Lisbon Falls, and she and my mom remained friends until her retirement, and she moved to Camden, ME., where she died.   Yvette would visit once in a while, and they often exchanged letters. 
 
The point of this story is… Stephen stopped at our house a few years ago with lots of information about the Byras family.  The Byras family had a family reunion in Bowdoin every year, and we always went when Gert was alive.  After she died, Jack lost interest in going, and so did his dad.  Stephen went every year and knew all the Byras family.  He also knew I had joined Ancestry and wanted to know the Byras family history.  He told me all the family members, and thankfully, I wrote it all down.  I hadn’t done much on the Byras family until a couple of days ago, and now I’m obsessed with completing that tree.  I’m not done yet, but I’m close.  I can only work for a few hours and don’t always get back to it until the next day.  
 
Another bit of information… Joe, Yvette, and Stephen Byrus spell their last name Byrus, and the rest of the family spells it Byras.  I don’t know if you had noticed that.  I asked Stephen why one time, and he said he didn’t know, but his family always spelled it that way.  
 
I’ve rambled enough for now, but I thought you’d be interested to know my connection to the Byras family.  Little did I know when I was growing up, I’d marry Jack and become involved with his family history as much as I have.  I couldn’t wait to get to the cemetery today to find the Elcik/Ilcik gravestone.  I even saw Earl’s footprints in the snow!!!!
 
I’m shutting down for now.  I’ll send the pictures tomorrow.
 
Beth
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Re: The MyCousins Project

Fri 1/15/2021 11:11 PM

Beth,

I, too, have been working on the Byrus/Byras branch. It appears you have the inside track, and I think that is wonderful. I look forward to learning more. I had no idea that you had a personal connection. Wow, you are full of surprises.
Your other comment may explain why you were up late the other night, and I suggested we both turn into pumpkins. Please do your best to get rest, stay healthy and safe.
John, IV
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Re: Ilcik

Fri 1/15/2021 11:55 PM

Beth,

Did you notice just how active Earl has been? Incredible work ethic.
Yes, that IS me. What can I say? Actually, I’m speechless. Wow.  I thought I wouldn’t be surprised again, at least not right away. The surprises keep coming.
  1. Great-grandfathers’ obituary.
  2. Great-grandfather’s gravesite and Ilcik connection.
  3. Your Byrus connection.
  4. Earl’s DNA revelation.
What is next?
What fun! And you are at the center of all these discoveries. 🎉🥳
Thank you!
John, IV